Hey lovely,
You're no stranger to personal development.
You're a reflective person by nature, and the fact that you feel things so deeply means you naturally gravitate towards thinking about your feelings and thoughts.
Certain things have helped with the emotional intensity of life: walks in nature, a yoga or mindfulness practice. Maybe you’ve even faced your demons in therapy.
You’ve tried a lot. And yet… life still feels harder than it should, sometimes.
And you’ve begun to wonder if maybe the problem is you.
Maybe you are just someone who is easily overwhelmed. Maybe you're kind of a serious person. Maybe joy and playfulness just don’t come naturally to you.
Maybe you just need to accept it?
But what if I told you that if all of things you’ve tried... were never designed to help you feel the way you actually want to feel?
All the things you’ve tried have “worked” in the sense that they did what they were meant to do — but they were never fit the purpose of an enjoying your life more.
Therapy’s goal is to build your self-awareness (and it does).
Those mindful walks in nature and breathwork exercises are meant to help you feel more present (and they will).
But only Positive Psychology's goal is to give you more joy.
Only Positive Psychology has the explicit purpose of developing your emotional resilience at both ends of the emotional spectrum.
A quicker recovery after a hard moment with your kids. A more stable mood that doesn’t tank when the morning goes badly. More felt joy, awe, and gratitude on a daily basis.
And the truth is that you need it all for a richer, more enjoyable version of motherhood.
That’s why my work brings together a wide range of the evidence-based tools that help you to build that self-awareness, release sticky feelings like guilt and resentment, deepen your sense of presence, and increase the frequency of positive emotions like joy, awe, and gratitude.
Because I just don't believe being less overwhelmed is enough. I want more laughter in your days too.
I have spots open for emotional resilience coaching. If you'd like to try it out for free, read about my exchange offer below.
In support of you,
Kirsti
Mum of two | Coaching Psychologist (MAPPCP)
Can you help?
Want to snag a free coaching session with me? I’m still looking to speak to a couple more mums about their experience in motherhood, in order to shape my upcoming programmes The Anchoring and Proud of the Parent You Are. If you feel like you’re losing yourself in being everything to everybody else, questioning whether you’re doing the right thing as a parent, and wondering how you've ended up carrying the mental load at home, you’re exactly who I’d like to talk to. Here's how it'll go: we'll meet for a casual chat about what you feel impacts your wellbeing right now, and I'll show you outline of my programme so you can tell me if it resonates or not. A free standalone 45-minute coaching session on a topic of your choice is my offer in return.
In my world
Growing up as someone who feels things so intensely, somewhere along the way I absorbed this idea that I should be able to exist in the world the same way as everyone else. Over the years I've questioned myself for finding a 9-5 work day exhaustingly long, for only wanting to do one social thing a day, or struggling with changes even when I know them to be positive. But somewhere in motherhood and learning about high sensitivity, I finally gave myself permission to do what I can to honour what my unique nervous system need. And what a difference it makes: lately this looks like me saying aloud to my husband that I'm going to take it easy the day after travel (when he likes to hit the ground running), planning our weekends with slow family time built in, and recognising how I'm actually more productive working school-length days than I ever was full days. Do you experience those same dips in energy? What does your nervous system need to feel more supported?
