Hey lovely,

Do you ever wonder if you should just give it all up for them?

You’ve always had ambition, goals for your life. You’ve always approached your career with intention and it’s given you a sense of purpose.

But in those moments when it gets in the way of being there for your kids — your mind drifting to that client during dinner, answering emails while they beg you to play with them, feeling like you’re not doing a good enough job at either thing — you sometimes wonder if it’s really worth it.

Because at the end of the day, the heart of it is that nothing matters to you more than them.

And sometimes it feels like a choice between the two, with the obvious solution being no to press pause on your life to be fully engaged with theirs.

But what if there was a third way between feeling split down the middle or completely pushing your personal goals aside?

Because deep down, your dream is really to have it all: to know you’re progressing your career, doing meaningful work that fulfills you, and to be able to be there for your kids.

You’ve just begun to doubt whether that’s possible.

Let’s be real, there are genuine limitations here: financial needs, organisational policies you come up against, conflicting schedules. It’s true that some things simply can’t be changed.

But there is room to improve things in other ways, and that’s where building your resilience comes in.

It’s having clarity on what you truly want in this season that determines your choices, but that clarity can feel elusive to find by just thinking things through — when I work with a client in coaching, we begin by doing a Positive Psychology analysis to uncover your personal values that, when you use them to guide your next steps, give you more energy and purpose.

You need authentic, feel-good boundaries to protect your family time, but your anxiety around saying no, asking for support, or turning down work can get in the way — having some practical ways to boost your confidence and a coach to walk alongside you makes that feel less intimidating.

And although it’s understandable to believe that if you take work off your plate, you’ll finally be able to relax into your time with your children, the reality is that the load seems to expand until it’s impossibly big no matter how much you simplify your life — what actually makes it possible to be present with your kids is training your brain how to put the load aside and anchor deeply into this moment.

It’s no joke: modern parenting is one big juggle. But I’ve seen time and again how approaching it with intention, evidence-based strategies for less overwhelm and more joy, and the right support can be the key to keeping the balls that are the most important to you in the air.I
f you’ve outgrown the burned-out version of your motherhood, and are craving more ease, enjoyment, and support, then I’d love to hear from you.
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I’m still looking to chat to mums in survival mode about their experiences in order to shape my new programme (now renamed The Anchoring). In exchange, you’ll get a free 1:1 coaching session with me, which is the perfect chance to try out my coaching, no strings-attached, while shifting a key challenge you’re struggling with right now.

In support of you,

Kirsti

Mum of two | Coaching Psychologist (MAPPCP)

In my world

Lately I’ve been really intentional about making time for social connection in small ways in an attempt to ease the isolation I sometimes feel in motherhood. Just today I chatted to a mum about how good it feels to have an adult conversation sometimes! I notice how, in lonely moments when my husband is travelling and I’ve holed myself up indoors for too long with only the kids for company, I get caught up thinking connection needs to be found in big ways: if only I had a best friend living in my city, my sister down the road, a circle of mothers I met with regularly to share joy and grief. But the truth is that feeling connected doesn’t need to be that lofty. Loneliness is eased in micromoments of connction, and I’ve felt how much lighter my days feel when I seek them out: picking up the phone to my mom for ten minutes while I clean, pausing to chat to the nursery manager, starting a conversation with another parent at the park. Community doesn’t have to be grand.