Hey Reader,

The load you carry feels truly inescapable…

There is no fairy godmother who’s going to sweep in and take care of the laundry, cooking, and cleaning, even for a day.

Your strong-willed child is not going to wake up and decide to suddenly turn go-with-the-flow.

The appointments aren’t going to make themselves; the clothing in their drawers won’t magically size-up just because you wished it so.

So what really is there to be done but to keep your head down and continue to wade through it, heavy as it all feels?

But what if you could let go of some of that heaviness, even if the actual load doesn’t change?

Most mums are carrying not just the to-do list, but an extra emotional burden that could be let go of.

There’s your attempt to stay on top of things — and then there’s the painful thought of, “Other mums are managing fine. I’m just not cut out for this.”

There‘s the exhaustion of tending to your little one’s waking throughout the night — and then there’s the way you tell yourself, “It’s my fault. I’m clearly doing everything wrong.”

There’s your little one’s meltdown at the grocery store — and then there’s the weight of the thoughts that go, “People think I’m a bad mum whose children just walk all over me.”

Imagine how much lighter you’d feel being able to meet those moments without the extra weight of self-criticism and negative thinking.

How much easier would it feel to navigate these challenges with presence and a supportive inner voice?

“I’m doing the best I can. Yes, my home is messier than I’d like — but that’s because I’ve chosen to meet my children’s need for connection.”

“These night wakes are so hard, but they’re not my fault. I’m doing the best I can to meet their needs.”

“Meltdowns are normal at this age. Even if people judge, I love knowing I’m a safe space for my kids.”

This is what resilience gives you: a different energy in how you carry it all.

I may not be able to take on the actual load for you — but I can make it feel lighter.

In support of you,

Kirsti

Mum of two | Coaching Psychologist (MAPPCP)

In my world

One thing I’ve been finding really useful with my four year old lately is using curiosity to mitigate meltdowns. When she doesn’t get to do something she wants and I’m holding my boundary about it, I try to avoid trying to reason with her about it and instead invite her to share more about why she wants what she wants. It’s amazing to see how her resistance softens as she tells me about the ice cream flavour she would’ve chosen, or how she’s keen to see what’s down that winding path. Giving her the space to be heard has a double benefit: I naturally feel more understanding, and can offer her an alternative time we might meet her curiosity, and she seems to be more accepting of the boundary knowing I care about her perspective. Why not give it a try with your little one this week, and let me know how it goes (by email or Instagram)?

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