Hey Reader,

There’s a side to the load that feels particularly hard: the weight of feeling like nobody really sees you.

How immense the load you carry really is.

What it takes to show up for your kids everyday without fail, no matter how tired or unwell you are.

How hard it is to have nothing left for yourself at the end of the day.

How crushing the guilt is when you get overwhelmed and aren’t able to show up as the steady, patient, present mum you intended to be.

How alone you feel when your partner doesn’t do the thing they agreed they would, and it lands on your plate again.

But with no place to express this, you swallow it all down… and on the day goes.

Wouldn’t it be a relief to say it aloud to someone who won’t judge you?

You see, I’m actually looking to speak to a handful of mums like you: ones who really want to be the best mum they can be, but who feel like they’re losing themselves in survival mode, longing to feel proud of how they’re showing up with their kids, and wishing their partner would take more initiative and just appreciate all they do.

I’d love to hear about all these things in a 45-minute private zoom call with you.

Your insights will help me to design my flagship programme for mums called Proud of the Parent You Are. It’s really important to me that it truly meets your needs!

I’ll also be creating a self-paced mini course early next year called “No Time for Me”: Realistic Self-Care for Mums and, as thank you, will give free access to any mum that shares their experience with me.

If you’d like to be involved (and snag free access to my mini course), please reply and let me know.

I look forward to speaking with you.

My hope is you also get something out of having a space to just be seen in your experience, any and all feelings allowed!

In support of you,

Kirsti

Mum of two | Coaching Psychologist (MAPPCP)

In my world

My youngest has just started nursery this week. She has been the level of velcro baby that, until a month ago, wouldn't let me go shower or walk out of the room most days, so I felt anxious we'd have loads of tears but (to my relief) her settling-in sessions have gone better than her older sister's did. I have so many feelings in this transition. I've struggled with having so little space for myself and really missed my work, so I'm excited to get back to supporting mums through 1:1 coaching, workshops, and launching my CalmCrafted weekly group here in Bath. This is my last maternity leave, so there's some sadness at what feels like "the end of an era". I'm choosing to let myself feel it all and take it slow this week, giving my nervous system time to ease in, and am grateful for the privilege of being able to do that.